Wow! This is such a refreshing reframe of the idea of discipline. I often feel like i am not disciplined because i don’t sit down to write or create when i say i will. But i am very much disciplined in other areas, like caring for my children, supporting my family, and listening to my body. I think i may have healed some self inflicted wounds just now. Thank you!!
I relate to this a lot - both because of a very similar experience with choosing not to drink for "a while" that turned into 10 months, but also because lately I've been feeling an old "should" voice pop up to tell (in a nicer way than it used to) something like, "hey, you might get more of these cool things done that you're interested in learning and doing if you had more of a regular schedule for them." Rather than immediately shutting that voice down in a continued rebellion to 45 prior years of disciplining myself, I am trying to be curious about it. Could I benefit from a schedule? What would it look like (for me) to do something at a certain time each day, without falling back into "shoulding" all over myself? Is a schedule the best/only way to give these things more of my attention? How do I know that the reason I'm resisting the schedule isn't because some part of me knows I still need more recovery time from that old version of me that looked at his watch every 94 seconds to see if he was maximizing his time? Anyway, thanks for supporting me in bringing curiosity, openness, and self-trust to this exploration.
I can't quite find the words, but I wanted to let you know that reading this sent a surge of energy through my body and it's incredibly exciting. It's like a freedom from a really old, rotting hand that has kept me gripped really tightly. Thanks so much, I appreciate this very deeply.
My favorite definition of discipline used to be Henri Nouwen’s “the effort to create space in which God can act.” But THIS feels even more inviting: curiosity + discernment —- being led into the next step by desire rather than forcing myself there! I can feel this in my body… now if I can just get my mind to recognize that feeling as “discipline”~
I loved this, so inspiring! It made me so happy, that you cited Foucault, I adore his work. And I think it is a great decision to quit drinking, did this years ago and never looked back :-)
Wow! This is such a refreshing reframe of the idea of discipline. I often feel like i am not disciplined because i don’t sit down to write or create when i say i will. But i am very much disciplined in other areas, like caring for my children, supporting my family, and listening to my body. I think i may have healed some self inflicted wounds just now. Thank you!!
I relate to this a lot - both because of a very similar experience with choosing not to drink for "a while" that turned into 10 months, but also because lately I've been feeling an old "should" voice pop up to tell (in a nicer way than it used to) something like, "hey, you might get more of these cool things done that you're interested in learning and doing if you had more of a regular schedule for them." Rather than immediately shutting that voice down in a continued rebellion to 45 prior years of disciplining myself, I am trying to be curious about it. Could I benefit from a schedule? What would it look like (for me) to do something at a certain time each day, without falling back into "shoulding" all over myself? Is a schedule the best/only way to give these things more of my attention? How do I know that the reason I'm resisting the schedule isn't because some part of me knows I still need more recovery time from that old version of me that looked at his watch every 94 seconds to see if he was maximizing his time? Anyway, thanks for supporting me in bringing curiosity, openness, and self-trust to this exploration.
I can't quite find the words, but I wanted to let you know that reading this sent a surge of energy through my body and it's incredibly exciting. It's like a freedom from a really old, rotting hand that has kept me gripped really tightly. Thanks so much, I appreciate this very deeply.
My favorite definition of discipline used to be Henri Nouwen’s “the effort to create space in which God can act.” But THIS feels even more inviting: curiosity + discernment —- being led into the next step by desire rather than forcing myself there! I can feel this in my body… now if I can just get my mind to recognize that feeling as “discipline”~
Book in January! What book? ! Where can we get more information about said book ??!
I loved this, so inspiring! It made me so happy, that you cited Foucault, I adore his work. And I think it is a great decision to quit drinking, did this years ago and never looked back :-)